We all have it and feel it sometimes or for some, most of the time. Self-doubt or our inner critic. Our worst enemy and barrier to our growth.
The little voice that tells you it can’t be done and that you will fail if you take on that challenge. That voice always seems certain and the constant nagging doesn’t help. It is like having your ear ringing after a heavy metal concert.
Many of us would have experienced this self-doubt at some point in our lives.
For some of us it could be what we needed to get started and make the changes to propel us forward. For others, it could be another thing that reinforces how we already feel…defeated.
Overcoming self-doubt takes courage, determination, support and encouragement.
When you find yourself in this place where doubt is paramount in your mind, there are some steps to take to overcome it. Although, this is different for everybody depending on your self-belief and motivation to create better outcomes, it is possible to overcome self-doubt by following these simple steps
UNDERSTAND YOUR STRENGTH as this is crucial and will determine how you handle self-criticism. On one hand it’s good because it’s like challenging you and taking you out of your comfort zone. For instance if your inner critic tells you that you can’t get that promotion at work because you don’t have the skills or not up to it, you may see that as a challenge to try a bit harder and get the promotion. Of course, inner criticism is different for everybody as it could work against you if you’re one to accept defeat easily or give in too quickly.
KNOW YOURSELF because the first step to overcoming self-doubt is to know what you can and cannot do. This is not to say that you should not take on challenges that exceed your capability, but being true to yourself and understanding your inner strength will help you override the little voice of self-doubt.
CHOOSE TO BE ACTIVE NOT PASSIVE for the simple reason that you should and can take control of the situation by doing something. Not acting is submission and means that you have given in to this inner critic. A simple step to starting will be self-affirmation and ownership of what happens to you and that you are responsible for your actions and the outcomes you create.
SET YOUR GOALS so you can have a plan and take a step-by-step action. Some of us don’t like goal setting, as it could be unexciting and daunting. If you have too many things on your goal list, the inner voice may constantly remind you of how you may not be able to cross off all the items on the list. The key is to have short list, keep it simple and take one day at a time without overwhelming yourself.
STAY FOCUSED on what is happening right in the moment. Be present. When you overtask yourself and take on too much, you loose focus and for that reason, you’re constantly reminded how you’ll not be able to complete what you started. A constant repetition of this voice will eventually lead you to start believing you’re incapable. Staying focused on a project or task will make sure you commit and overcome the voice that says you can’t.
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