Start Moving Now

To reach any destination, we must put one foot in frontStart With Confidence™ of the other and start moving towards the direction we want to go.

This is the simple idea behind Start With Confidence™. A step by step approach to making changes where required and necessary

As simple as it sounds, it can be challenging for some people, especially women that have experienced low self-esteem, Self doubt, and unsure how to take that first step to change.

It is normal for us to feel stuck at some point in our lives. Feeling this way will often lead to confusion, sadness, blame, and self-doubt. But we must first acknowledge our situation needs to change before we can truly make the start.

To change is to start the “long walk to freedom” (borrowing the Late Nelson Mandela’s words).

We can blame others for everything that has happened or is happening to us. This blame game takes the power away from us as we become dependent on the person, people or society to change before our situation can improve.

This is the wrong way to go about starting the process to getting the outcome you so desire.

Take back control by believing that you are responsible for your own happiness. Do what needs to be done. Find  the courage and Start With Confidence™.

Walk towards the place you need to be.

Certain things are required before you start: Be ready for change. Have self-belief, grow your confidence. Take responsibility for your actions. Be realistic and commit to change.

Start new, start thinking differently about yourself and believe that you are responsible for changing the way you feel about the situation you find yourself in. Ask friends, relatives, colleagues how they’ve done it and then Start With Confidence™.

When is a good time to start? ?

How about Now.


Stop asking.. Can She? And start saying She can.

I know of a woman who wanted to be a singer and travel the world. But when she got pregnant at the height of her singing career and was made to believe her singing days were behind her.

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So, she stopped singing and performing to care for her baby. I know of another woman who wanted to start her own business when she arrived in New Zealand. She was also told that it will be difficult because she had young children.

She did not listen and she went on to become a successful entrepreneur in her own right. I know of a woman who is expecting a baby and the prime minster of New Zealand. People are asking Can She????

There are questions about how she will manage as a mother and a leader. I know of many women who are mothers, entrepreneurs and leaders. They have inspired me and many more women to be where we are today.

These women are fearless and take on huge challenges to make our world a better place to live in. I also know of many women who have given up on their dreams because they have children. I know of other women who have chosen to skip motherhood because it will ruin their career only to regret it later.

My message today is simple and to all women wherever you are. Live your dream. You can have it all and be good at it. We (Women) are nurturers and we make things happen.

So, if you are contemplating motherhood or career, Don’t choose. Go for both. You are a woman after all, good at multitasking and juggling.



Taking Risks and the Benefits

Life is about taking risks. The type of risk we take will depend largely on our values, beliefs and aspirations.


What is risk taking and why should we take risks? Why can’t we just leave things the way they are?

Consider where you are now. You would have taken some risk to get there. Maybe you had to learn a new skill, speak a new language, interact with different people, sit for exams, travel to new destinations, move to a new country and leave your family behind.

Whatever you’ve done till date has involved some element of risk or else you will not know where you are at this moment. When we become comfortable and settle for the status quo we stop living.

For some people who is okay but for others it is not.

If you know and feel there’s more and not take the initiative to risk it, then there’s a potential for regrets, what ifs and a feeling of accomplishment.

Why take risk? Is risk taking important? What are the benefits?

There are different types of risk. Some should not even be attempted if the outcome is not of any benefit to the person and people around them.

Having said that, risk taking is important as it shows we’re able and determined to make changes and improve in whatever we choose to do. It also acts as a challenge to us as we learn from every experience.

If you are a salesperson, you will be living in this space everyday as you call on potential customers to sell products or services.

The risk of being rejected is one that is constantly replayed in your mind, but you also know that if you don’t pick up that phone or knock on that door, then you are taking the risk of not knowing what the outcome will be.

One thing that is a sure benefit of taking the right risk is you’ll know and knowing is good. For instance, assuming you want to ask someone out on a date, you would want to know what that persons’ answer will be. You have to risk a yes or a no answer, but you must ask that person first to get the answer. If you don’t ask them you don’t know what the answer will be.

As a confidence coach, I urge people to find things out for themselves. Don’t listen to what others say about certain things as they see things from a different perspective. Doing is knowing and you can satisfy your curiosity by taking action.

Our next post will look at another reason risk taking is beneficial to us. So stay tuned.

If you would like to share your thoughts, feel free by commenting below. You can also ask me any question by emailing me directly.