Should I set a goal?

Most people will tell you goal setting is a waste of time and you should just go with the flow.

In some cases, going with the flow is good. You don’t have to plan anything and take whatever comes your way. In so doing, you are not pressured with time, don’t have to be specific or care too much about what is attainable.

smart goals setting grow with confidence

You practically don’t have to accomplish anything and life just goes on.  If that’s you and things are working out fine, awesome. Do not change.

But if you are like some of us,then goal setting works and makes life easier.

You are able to decide on what should be top priority, how to start, where and when to start and know exactly when you have accomplished what you set out to do.

Setting a goal, not just any goal, but goals that are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Timely (SMART) will help you get where you need to be.

There are many reasons for setting goals. The most common being that you want to get somewhere and fast.

Before you start, be clear about where you want that journey to take you (Specific)

Make sure you can tell how far you’ve come and how much more you need to go (Measurable)

Your goal has to be something that you can get to, not something that is too much for you to reach (Attainable)

You will also need to look deep inside and outside to be sure that the goal you’re setting is realistic. Not a pie in the sky. You cannot expect to accomplish unrealistic goal, such that you know is not possible.

Setting a time to complete or reach your goal will give you a sense of urgency. This will help you get organised, gather resources and plan better. Having an open ended goal will mean there’s no urgency. When there’s no urgency there’s no desire to complete anything.

Finally, setting a SMART goal will work every time as long as you commit to it.


The fight for Visibility

Visibility is everything in our world today. Whether you’re a small business owner, and employee, a community leader or politician, the more people see you (not just in the visual sense but the virtual as well) the more people will connect with you.


Some would say they don’t like to blow their own trumpet. Here is a real life short story

Jane (not here real name) shared how she was made redundant after 10 years in an organisation she worked for.  She admitted she was invisible at work. In other words, she hid from visibility.

While she was still employed, she would work on projects and let others take the credit for her work. She trained many team members and they went on to shine brighter than her securing bigger and better positions within the company.

She lacked the confidence to acknowledge her own talents and skills. She undermined the impact of not being visible or standing out.

The outcome took her by surprise. She was not ready for it.

This is not uncommon among women. We are modest, not aggressive enough and open doors for others which then gets slammed in our faces. You may know one or two people that fit in this box

Moving forward, she vowed to improve her visibility and be noticed for a better impact.

We are responsible for the results we want to create for ourselves, our businesses, within organisations and our communities.

We cannot blame others for our lack of visibility when we have not done much to improve it or make a positive impact.

Whether you own a business or you’re an employee within a company, it’s your responsibility to show up and be present. Let the people who matter feel your presence and the good work that you do. Let them know that you are there you are “THERE”.

I love to listen to Beyoncé’s song, “I was Here”. What will people remember about you when you are no longer “THERE”.

Here are five simple reasons why Visibility is good.

  • People are searching for talents like you. Let them find you through your work, your voice, your interaction, your contributions, your community and much more.
  • You want and hope to inspire others. When people see what you have accomplished and how it’s changing lives, they aim to do the same or even better.
  • You are proud of who we are and what you have accomplished. Connecting and story sharing is another way your visibility will help others help themselves.
  • You genuinely want to connect with others.
  • You are not afraid of rejection or failing. When you overcome obstacles and barriers because you were there and tried your best, it shows others that resilience and hard work pays off and failure is only part of learning and reaching ones’ goals.

What’s your take on Visibility? Love to hear your thoughts. Shine bright whatever you do.

Confidence to change is your choice

We get caught up in things we cannot do but pay little attention to things we can actually do. Some people will tell you that they are quite happy with the way things are when the obvious is clear.  Such people sit down, fold their arms and resist change.

Change with confidence and growDenial is one reason why we feel stuck at some point in our lives. We resist change because we don’t see the point. It takes confidence to change or want to make changes. The biggest challenge for us all when it comes to change is learning new ways of doing things and starting over again.

If you want to grow in anything you do, changing the way you think and feel starts a process and the outcome will show. Some people will see change as opportunity while others will view it as unwarranted inconvenience.

We cannot continue to do the same thing repeatedly and expect a different result every time. So how can you change the way you feel about making important decisions that will transform the results you get?

  • Don’t listen to naysayers. We have a tendency to listen to what people say about things we can and cannot do when deep down we know we want change. Why is that so? It is very easy to believe things that come easy, like somebody telling you how your plans will not work out. It is a freely given advise and doesn’t cost much. Take it with a pinch of salt.
  • Know yourself. This is crucial to having confidence to take on opportunities or challenges. What will get you there is the belief in your abilities and the knowledge you have with regards to what you’re hoping to carry out. You could be confident enough to go forward but if you’re not equipped with the right skills and tools, you may set yourself up to fail. Be sure you have all it takes.
  • Be clear in your head about what you want and what it will do for you. It is like travelling to another town with a road map. Clearing your head of uncertainties should start with a simple question.  What do I want?  Yes, it’s true we don’t all know what we want (you’re not alone) but if you know what you DON’T want then at least you have eliminated some things.
  • Stay with and seek people who will help you learn and grow with confidence. It is true that we can easily be influenced by the people we interact with especially if they’re our role models and we look up to them. The down side is, if these so-called role models are having negative impact in our thinking and actions then we need to start making some changes. The impact if we continue on this path will be disastrous, so be aware when things are not working out for your good or growth.
  • Learn, learn, learn. When doubt, low self-esteem self-imposed barriers hold us you back from getting stuck in, we begin to feel stuck in a rut. We have all been there at some point in our work, career, life where it feels like we can’t keep our head above water. What you do at that point will determine the results you’ll get. You can never learn enough. Knowledge is power and the more you know, the less likely you are to feel like you’re going round and round in circle with no known destination in mind.

We can all make changes with practice and confidently transform our results. But we have to hunger for that change and seek help if need be.

My Sister’s Story. From a prolonged job search to a successful Entreprenuer

“Give a woman a fish she eats for a day, teach her to fish and she eats for a lifetime and feeds her community”

My sister lives in Lagos, Nigeria and has two children. She graduated from university with a degree in Business administration.

My Sister and children
My Sister and children

After graduation she searched for work for up to two years but was unsuccessful in her efforts. She was unhappy, confused and loosing confidence.

I invited her to visit me in New Zealand. At the time I owned a very successful hair supply business and a hair salon. employing several team members.

During her visit, we talked about her challenges and what she was going to do when she got back home. She went back after 3 months’ visit.

On a trip to Nigeria, I met up with her and we sat down to discuss what options are out there in spite of the lack of success in her job search effort. There are always options.

She noted she likes to cook and would like to start her own business. She needs help to start.”

I remember growing up and helping mum at the market. I really enjoyed that” she said.

She was exceptionally good at selling as I recalled and she used to come back home with all her wares sold regularly as was very good at building rapport with people.

I asked her what type of business she would like to start.  She said she would like to make her own snack foods, like plantain chips ( Green banana chips).

The reasons for these choice are:

  • Low cost entry to start up
  • Ability to work from home and still look after her children
  • Her love for cooking
  • Affordability for prospective customers
  • Demand for snack foods in the area where she lives
  • Opportunity to grow by supplying retail outlets.

Her motivating factors are the desire to be independent and self sufficient and provide for her immediate and extended family.

I returned back to New Zealand and helped her with the business plan.  She started out by working from home and selling from home.

Her products were not branded so no one knew who had manufactured them. I encouraged her to think about branding her products so it can be traced back to her in case people wanted to order more.  She did this and included her contact details in the packaging.

I encouraged her to seek out stockist in her area to create more awareness and increase buyers for her products. She did.


She is now supplying various retail outlets, bus deports stations, market stall holders and more. She has also moved her business out of her house and rented a new premises employing some staff.

These results have been achieved in a space of 5 years. She is happy, successful and independent woman all by exploring other options when things are not working out and changing her mindset.

People can be exceptionally good at what they do given the right support, tools and learning environment.  I am very happy for her success and continue to support her through coaching and mentoring.

My coaching practice is named after her first born child. She credits me for her success, but I believe she did it all by herself with my support and encouragement.

She was ready to embrace change, take risk and play outside her comfort zone. Change comes from within and our ability to step out and step up is what will create the outcome we seek.

Women can be exceptionally good at what they do. By supporting and encouraging more women to take on new challenges, we create a domino effect as their successes flows on to other areas of our community.

There might be someone that you know that needs support to be exceptionally good at what they do. Can you help that person start or refer them to someone who can help them?


If you have an idea or a dream, don’t kill it with fear of failing. Find the right person to help you and start with confidence

Throw yourself in and commit 100% to it. That is the only way you’ll know what the outcome will be. Need help starting? You know what to do.