Change takes time, effort and planning. If you want to a different result it will make sense to stop doing the same thing over and over again. We must be responsive to change and opportunities. Only then can we get a different outcome from the norm.
There is no silver bullet to overcoming barriers or challenges. But there’s always that opportunity to seek out the new, if we are feeling stuck.
We are different in the way we respond or react to challenges. Find what works for you and do it as we’re all unique in our own way.
Be creative with your problems or challenges. Find a silver lining in everything that happens and be responsive and open to change.
We get caught up in things we cannot do but pay little attention to things we can actually do. Some people will tell you that they are quite happy with the way things are when the obvious is clear. Such people sit down, fold their arms and resist change.
Denial is one reason why we feel stuck at some point in our lives. We resist change because we don’t see the point. It takes confidence to change or want to make changes. The biggest challenge for us all when it comes to change is learning new ways of doing things and starting over again.
If you want to grow in anything you do, changing the way you think and feel starts a process and the outcome will show. Some people will see change as opportunity while others will view it as unwarranted inconvenience.
We cannot continue to do the same thing repeatedly and expect a different result every time. So how can you change the way you feel about making important decisions that will transform the results you get?
- Don’t listen to naysayers. We have a tendency to listen to what people say about things we can and cannot do when deep down we know we want change. Why is that so? It is very easy to believe things that come easy, like somebody telling you how your plans will not work out. It is a freely given advise and doesn’t cost much. Take it with a pinch of salt.
- Know yourself. This is crucial to having confidence to take on opportunities or challenges. What will get you there is the belief in your abilities and the knowledge you have with regards to what you’re hoping to carry out. You could be confident enough to go forward but if you’re not equipped with the right skills and tools, you may set yourself up to fail. Be sure you have all it takes.
- Be clear in your head about what you want and what it will do for you. It is like travelling to another town with a road map. Clearing your head of uncertainties should start with a simple question. What do I want? Yes, it’s true we don’t all know what we want (you’re not alone) but if you know what you DON’T want then at least you have eliminated some things.
- Stay with and seek people who will help you learn and grow with confidence. It is true that we can easily be influenced by the people we interact with especially if they’re our role models and we look up to them. The down side is, if these so-called role models are having negative impact in our thinking and actions then we need to start making some changes. The impact if we continue on this path will be disastrous, so be aware when things are not working out for your good or growth.
- Learn, learn, learn. When doubt, low self-esteem self-imposed barriers hold us you back from getting stuck in, we begin to feel stuck in a rut. We have all been there at some point in our work, career, life where it feels like we can’t keep our head above water. What you do at that point will determine the results you’ll get. You can never learn enough. Knowledge is power and the more you know, the less likely you are to feel like you’re going round and round in circle with no known destination in mind.
We can all make changes with practice and confidently transform our results. But we have to hunger for that change and seek help if need be.
I was on a flight from Lagos to Doha and sat beside a young man.
Olu (not his real name) appeared to be in his mid 20’s.
He was traveling back to one of the Gulf States, having been lured by the great opportunities and wealth that abound there.
He quit his IT job in his home country and moved there only to work as a security guard in a housing complex.
Olu has a degree in information technology and worked as a programmer in his previous job with an insurance firm. He is concerned he’s wasting time and not applying the skills he has acquired in this present job.
This story is not uncommon with new migrants to a new country. People end up in situations they had not planned for and struggle to find a way out for different reasons.
Most of us experience hopelessness and disappointment and struggle with settling if what we had hoped for is not what we end up with.
So, how do you turn things around and make a fresh start? By Embracing Change.
A simple step to follow is by acknowledging there’s a way out and that you may have to go BACK to go forward. Difficult situation creates opportunities if we look beyond our problems.
True, you can’t change the past, but you can plan for the future and having a positive mind, being realistic and seeking support is key to embracing change.
What’s your story?